Life

I posted a while back about my daughter's father and his passing - the struggle is ongoing. I feel helpless and weak and I can't seem to help my child enough. I pray for the right words and right actions - sometimes I get caught up in the heat of the moment and say things I immediately regret (no sense coloring things all pretty and perfect when I'm not).
My poor baby has suffered the loss of 3, yes three, men in her life in less than a year and a half. First, my step-father, the only "Poppy" she'd ever known on my side of the family, died suddenly in a horrific car wreck in October 2006. Then in February of this year, her soccer Coach, John, passed away, equally as unexpectedly, of a heart attack in Chick-Fil-A. Not even a month later, her own father died unexpectedly as well.
God has a plan - I know God has a plan. But dang if it doesn't hurt to see my baby just burst into tears because someone mentions something she relates to her Dad. For instance, we were at the Spring Concert at Briarcrest the other night and the Senior High Band Director was acknowledging all the awards and the college plans of the seniors in his band at which point Sophie's eyes welled up with tears and she looked at me and said, "I can't listen to them talk about The University of Memphis - that was my Dad's school." All I could say was I'm sorry and it will be okay. I know time will heal her wounds - but we live in an impatient world and time. Everything we ever need can be gotten in an instant - need information on something, get on the internet; need something to eat, microwave, call for take out or just drive through...
How do I help my baby through this? I have her talking to her counselor at school. I made an appointment for her to get counseling through a local grief organization. I am applying for her to go to a summer grief camp. But this isn't a scrape on the knee - I can't wash it, stick a band-aid on, give her a kiss and a pat on the back and make it all better. And, quite frankly, that sucks!
I am new to giving things over to God - so I'm just going to pray about it. Feel free to send your prayers this way, Lord knows we need 'em!
Have a wonderful day.